Recently my wife and I attended a marriage seminar at the Crieve Hall Church of Christ in Nashville Tennessee. Glenn and Cindy Colley did a great job encouraging us to build a strong marriage. We enjoyed the lessons that were taught and the company of dear friends and family. One of the interesting subjects discussed was “knowing your spouse’s love language.” I was reminded that Athena has a love language that is unique to her and it was my duty to love her the way she wanted. Sometimes I make the mistake of loving her the way that I think is best, instead of loving her the way that she desires. This led me to the thought that in our relationship with God, we need to speak God’s love language. Since God has shown His love for us, our duty is to find out how we can show Him that we love Him. What is it that pleases God? How may one speak God’s love language? Are we loving God His way or ours?

The Bible clearly states the love of God for mankind. I believe there is hardly any dispute among believers in discussing God’s love for us. Here are a few scriptures that talk about God’s love towards mankind:

  • “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16 KJV)
  • “But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8 KJV)
  • “But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us,” (Ephesians 2:4 KJV)
  • “And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.” (Ephesians 5:2 KJV)
  • “Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.” (1 John 3:16 KJV)
  • “In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him.” (1 John 4:9 KJV)
  • “We love him, because he first loved us.” (1 John 4:19 KJV)

Believers in general, all agree that according to the Bible, God truly loves us all. However, when it comes to us showing our love for God, it seems that many have decided to love God the way they want or feel, instead of the way God desires. The Bible is clear in its instructions on how a man can show his love for God. Anyone can say they love God, but to prove this love to the one whom it matters the most, is the test of genuineness. So what does the Bible say about our response to God’s love for us? Or, what is God’s love language?

If one truly seeks to please God, he must have and continue to have an obedient faith:

  • “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” (Hebrews 11:6 KJV)

This faith is illustrated by the example of Abel, Noah, Abraham, Moses and all those who believed God’s Word and acted upon it as recorded in the Bible (Heb. 11). This is the kind of  faith that James wrote about in his writing:

  • “Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.But wilt thou know, O vain man, that faith without works is dead?” (James 2:19–20 KJV)
  • “Ye see then how that by works a man is justified, and not by faith only.” (James 2:24 KJV)
  • “For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.” (James 2:26 KJV)

Biblical faith is obedience in action and it is essential in expressing one’s love for God. The Bible tells us that in order for us to show we love God, we must obey Him. Jesus said to his disciples “if ye love me keep my commandments” (John 14:15). Sir, can you hear your wife saying “if you love me, show it by…?” Athena tells me that her love language is buying her flowers, cleaning the house, and …(the rest is my business). I would be a hypocrite of a husband to tell her I love her and not do the things that will prove my love for her. Friends it is the same with God. God has specified in the Bible the way he wants us to show him our love for him. The apostle John’s favorite word in his writing is the word “love.” Let us ask him for answers. “John how can we show God that we love Him?”

  • As stated earlier the words of Christ: “If ye love me, keep my commandments.” (John 14:15 KJV)
  • “He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.” (John 14:21 KJV)
  • “Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.” (John 14:23 KJV)
  • “If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love.” (John 15:10 KJV)
  • “We love him, because he first loved us.If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.” (1 John 4:19–21 KJV)
  • “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.” (1 John 5:3 KJV)
  • “And this is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it.” (2 John 1:6 KJV)

It is clear that in order for us to prove our love for God, we must keep and obey his commandments. In the marriage relationship, the Bible says in one place “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge… (1 Pet. 3:7). This knowledge in principle extends to knowing how to love her as she so desires. It is the same idea with our relationship with God.

The apostle Paul wanted to show his Jewish brethren that there is now a better way to show God true zeal or love. They were so tied to the Old Law which was nailed to the cross (Col. 2:14). Christ had already died offering salvation to all, yet some of them still wanted to bind the old system which did not offer salvation for anyone (Rom. 1:16). Their traditions and blindness to the purpose of the law of Moses made them think they were automatically saved by mere possession of the scriptures (John. 5:39). Paul, a lover of God as evident in his obedience and life change, wanted nothing more than for them to grasp the knowledge which leads to salvation. Notice what he wrote:

“Brethren, my heart’s desire and prayer to God for Israel is, that they might be saved.For I bear them record that they have a zeal of God, but not according to knowledge.For they being ignorant of God’s righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves unto the righteousness of God.For Christ is the end of the law for righteousness to every one that believeth.” (Romans 10:1–4 KJV)

“My tongue shall speak of thy word: for all thy commandments are righteousness.” (Psalms 119:172 KJV)

Friends, it is vital to show God that we truly love Him by our obedience to his will. Let us not be ignorant of God’s love language. Let us have the zeal for God that is according to the knowledge in the Bible. Let us search and study the same book where He tells us He loves us, for it is also written in it, how we can prove our love for Him (2 Pet.1:3).

To show one’s love for God, one will become a Christian.

How to become a Christian as according to the Bible.

  1. To have Faith, one must hear the Word of God (Rom. 10:17).
  2. Upon hearing, one must believe in the Son of God, Jesus Christ (John 8:24)
  3. One must repent of sins committed (Acts 17:30; Acts 2:38)
  4. One must confess the deity of Christ before witnesses (Matt. 10:32-33)
  5. One must be baptized for the remission of sins (Mark 16:16; Acts 2:37-38; Acts 22:16; Rom. 6:1-6; Gal. 3:27; 1Pet 3:21)
  6. One must continue to be faithful to reach Heaven (Rev. 2:10)

Christians are in the only church that is mention in the Bible (Acts 11:26; Rom. 16:16) 

  1. God through baptism, adds one to the church (Acts 2:47).
  2. The church was built by Christ and there is only one (Matt 16:18)
  3. The church began at Pentecost (Acts 2)
  4. The church is the kingdom of God and was prophesied to come (2 Sam. 7:12-13; Daniel 2:44; Micah 4:1-2; Isaiah 2:2; Matt. 16:28; Luke 1:33)
  5. The church is the place where one can glorify God (Eph. 3:21)
  6. The church is the one body of Christ (Eph. 4:4), and Christ is the head of the one body (Col. 1:18; Eph. 5:23)
  7. The church is the kingdom of Christ (Col. 1:13)
  8. The church (kingdom) was part of the message that was preached to lost souls (Acts 8:12)
  9. The church is not a denomination for those have not existed at the time. The church is pre- denomination. In the Bible, the church was in many different locations (Acts 11:26; Rom. 16:4, Rom. 16:16; 1 Cor. 1:2; Gal. 1:2; Col. 4:16; 1 Thess. 1:1…many more locations).

God’s desire for one type of Worship 

  1. It must be done with the right attitude and according to his commandment (John 4:24)
  2. His commandments of worship are in the New Testament
    • Change in Priesthood, Christians are now the Priests (Heb.7:11; 1 Pet.2:5, 9)
    • Change in Law (Heb. 7:12; Gal. 3:23-25;)
    • Change in the offering of sacrifices – no longer animals, but the fruit of our lips and our bodies (Heb.13:15; Rom. 12:1-2;).
    • No instrumental music in the New Testament, but we must sing and make music in our hearts (Col. 3:16; Eph. 5:19)
    • Observing the Lord’s Supper (Acts 20:7, 1 Cor 11:23- 29)
    • Giving as we are prospered by God with cheerful hearts (1 Cor. 16:1-2; 2 Cor. 9:7)
    • Preaching of God’s word (Acts 20:7; 2 Tim. 4:1-2)
  3. We worship God because we love him. If we love him, we will worship the way he has commanded us.

To Remain Saved (Rev. 2:10)

  1. Keep on doing God’s will (Matt. 7:21- 23)
  2. Preach the word to others. (Matt. 28:18-20; Mark 16:15)
  3. Be faithful in worship. (Heb. 10:25)
  4. Be faithful in giving (1 Cor. 16:1-2)
  5. Be faithful in love (1 Cor. 13; 1 John 1-5)
  6. Continue to walk in the Light (1 John 1:5-9)
  7. BE FAITHFUL ALWAY

All the things listed above are written in the Bible so we can prove our love for God and obtained salvation through his grace (Eph. 2:8-10). Solomon wrote that our purpose is to Love God. If you love God you will fear him and keep his commandments (Eccl. 12:13).

Friends, for one to say he loves God, he must obey all his commandments. One must believe God’s word is the authority (2 Tim. 3:16-17). Believing the Bible is the same as believing God. So many believe that God loves them because they know that it is written in the Bible (John 3:16- the go to verse). However, so many refuse to believe that God has his own way for them to prove their love, as it is written in the same Bible where John 3:16 is found.

Are you speaking God’s love language in your actions and your words? Are you loving God His way or your way? Are you worshipping God His way or your way? Do you have salvation by God’s way or man’s way (there is no salvation in man’s way)? It is either God’s way or the broad way (Matt. 7:13-15)! Prove Him that you love Him and you will not be disappointed on the day of judgment.

“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” (John 8:32 KJV)

Praise Him, and Love Him!